If you would like advice then it would be really helpful if you could send an ask OFF anonymous, so we can privately reply. We won’t share anything or judge you, it’s just we get a lot of anonymous asks which we have to publish and it clogs up our blog. If you really, really don’t feel comfortable off anonymous then don’t worry, but please be patient as we can’t always reply that quickly. Please also bear in mind that we are not professionals etc, so if you need any help from a professional, visit your local GP or family planning clinic.
Q: I’m __ years old and i havent had sex, is that bad?!
A: there’s nothing bad about that. You should feel proud you haven’t thrown it away on someone who doesn’t mean anything to you like a lot of people do these days. You could be a virgin at 22 and it still wouldn’t matter. Your time will come, I wouldn’t feel bad about it.
Q: I’ve been dating my boyfriend/girlfriend for ____, but we still haven’t had sex.
A: - If this is because of a confidence issue with your body image, I’m sure your partner will love your body as it is (and if not, you deserve better than that). We cannot stress how important it is that you talk to your partner and not be embarrassed about it.
- As for bleeding/pain for girls, it depends on the individual but chances are you won’t bleed much (or even at all). It might not even hurt either, if you’ve masturbated or he has fingered you before then you’ve probably stretched your hymen already, which is the bit that tears when you have sex for the first time, causing the pain and bleeding. It can even break when you’re doing sports such as horse riding, or if you’ve worn tampons before it will probably be broken. If you’re tense and worried it will probably hurt you.
- Some people have said they are worried about how ‘good’ their first time is. Link: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/first-time-sex
Q: You gave wrong information/what you said is stupid.
A: Most of our asks we answer are based on our opinions. We double check any facts/statistics/etc online first before publishing, but if we do make a mistake we will correct it.
Q: Help! I had sex and I think I might be pregnant?
A: We don’t have the answer to that one. Take a test, you can get them really cheap these days, about £1/$1 if you go to a pound/dollar store.
Q: I want to give my partner manual/oral sex but I don’t know how, help?
Oral sex on women: http://uk.askmen.com/dating/love_tip/36_love_tip.html
I’ll add some more soon.